Thankful Thursday- God came to my RESCUE

 I called You Answered

And You came to my Rescue!

Today I have two testimonies. Testimonies are meant to be shared to encourage each other and also to share the awesomeness of God. I want to give all thanks to him! You all know how I love God and if I had a chance I would talk and blog about him all day long! Hehe!

So I hope this doesnt turn out to be a long post as I am not a fan of long posts but here goes:

Testimony 1- A few months ago I went in to my GP to get a simple procedure done ( I won't bore you with the details). As in simple go in and go out type procedure but the devil thought otherwise. The GP (general practitioner) tried to do it and said it was looking complicated and didn't want to risk any more complications. He said he would have to refer me to the main hospital for a scan and I may need general anesthesia (GA) and surgery. Gene what? Surg- what? I have never been put to sleep before or had surgery so I was like "huh, you kidding right".

Anyway I had to go on a waiting list for about a month and a half. I got a letter to come in October but I called them to move it forward, as I was some time in pain and wasn't even sure what it was. I wanted to get this whole thing over and done with. Thankfully, I was called in to come in Sept 27th.

I went in to the hospital, and waited for like 2 hours. Gosh see loads of women waiting to be seen. Anyway, the registrar I saw did some checks and also confirmed I would need the GA/surgery and depending on what they find I may have to come back for another surgery and what not. He got me to sign a form after telling me all the risks of infection and things getting ruptured inside of me. He told me I would be sent a letter for surgery date which would be in late Nov. I was just dazed, confused and upset.

Now during the time I was on the waiting list, I called in to another clinic to see if they could get the procedure done. My appointment for the second clinic was Oct 1, this Monday that just passed. So Thursday when I got the news, I told Baale and my SIL (sister in law) who is my sister from another mother. They were both like wow! are you serious? nawa o! but why? and what not.

Anyway SIL who is in Nigeria suggested we fast and pray about it all on Monday before I go in. So that was what we did, I told God my heart desire- I didn't want to do a surgery for something that was suppose to be simple. I told 2 other friends and they agreed to pray along.

Monday came and a lot of drama happened just a few hours before I had to go to the clinc in the evening. Work was hectic. Baale was getting on my nerves. Also our car which I took in for repairs during the weekend wasn't ready.  So I decided to walk to the clinic , I didnt realise it was that far. 45 mins walk! Phew. All the way I kept telling myself not to allow my fasting and praying be a waste because of all the drama.

Anyway I got there and saw the nurse, I didnt mention anything about the surgery and all so as not to get her worked up. She tried to do the procedure but found it difficult. All this time I was just praying it will be done and that I am not leaving here without getting this thing done. She then said she needed to call the doctor on duty to do it. I said no problem.

She went out to get the doctor from the other room. People, guess who turned up? The first doctor who tried and sent me off for the scan! Immediately I saw him I hid my face (I was lying down). He came in and got to work. Before I knew it procedure was over! Done and dusted.

OMG (that means Oh my goodness btw) I started to laugh! I was laughing!!!! I was given the clear- no GA, No surgery, no nothing! I laughed and danced all the way to the train station (ok I was dancing in my mind) but laughing out loud like a crazy chic.

GOD IS AWESOME!!! and he has a sense of humor! I called SOS style and he came to my rescue! He used the same doctor to get this simply stuff done.

I have heard stories of women going in for this same procedure and end up with all sorts of complications. I was and still humbled because God decided to be merciful towards me. My people, please bless God with me!!!

A friend said to me recently in light of all these and also her own trial- "Do not let your reality question the might and power of God Almighty".

I challenge you with these words. Your reality has nothing on God's awesomeness. 

God hears us, and I want to encourage anyone who is believing God for something- healing, financial breakthrough, a child, a husband, a job, whatever. He hears and he will answer you just in time! JUST IN TIME! If you just believe and hold on to him. Tell him as it is, He will answer. His name will be lifted high in your life.

I leave you with this song I love so much. Stay encouraged




 Oh I said two testimonies ya? I'll share the second one next time. Another mind blowing one - well for me! I am one special child of God ;)

God bless you all

Aloted

Oprah's lifeclass The Tour

I wasn't really a follower of the Oprah Winfrey's show when it was on but I watched a few episodes here and there.  The first time I heard about Oprah's Lifeclass was from Good Nigerian Girl during one of our conversations online. Then she blogged about the classes here and then the Tour which she is attending LIVE in Toronto (well done girl!). I decided to check it out as one of my goals for 2012 is to invest my time in things that will edify me all round- body, spirit and soul. Anyway I have watched two episodes so far and all I can say is WOWOWOWOW!!! Some mind blowing deep stuff, I mean this is not just some fluffy stuff but practical ways of dealing with life issues.

The first episode I watched was the one with Tony Robbins Living Fearlessly. I  am a fan of Tony Robbins (by the way I wonder why he uses Tony now instead of Anthony..I prefer Anthony..lol). He is such an amazing inspirational speaker. He shares some powerful stuff on how to embrace your fear and change the story you tell yourself. Amongst his many books he is well known for his international bestselling book- Awaken the giant within.

I then watched the one with Bishop T.D Jakes- Living with Purpose. This one was just on another level. I was totally blessed by this episode. In fact I recommend you watch this one if you have time to watch just one episode. Two things the Bishop said that stood out for me (which I also tweeted about) were:

The "Yes Yes Yes, was from Tony Robbins- so I was mixing and matching there...lol

I have realised that there are some things I want to do which I either don't do or end up doing "conventionally" because of what friends or family or people I don't even know would say..but Nooo! all that is changing now. By God's grace I am stepping out! I do not need ANYONE's validation. All I need is God's permission.

From both classes I got one key message - My purpose has to be greater than me and cannot benefit just me but people around me. When I look beyond myself & my need and reach out to help other people I can do fearless amazing things.

I enjoyed the classes so much I am going to look for the ones she ran last year.  I encourage you to look for those videos (maybe starting from the two above) and watch. I know not everyone is a fan of Oprah (I am indifferent about her) but please don't let that hold you back from watching the videos...the guest speakers she brings to the show is what does it for me and the message of TRUTH they pass on.

God bless!

My first homemade green smoothie

So Natural Nigerian always talks about eating healthy on her blog amongst other things. I love anything relating to healthy living but I must confess I am not completely there. I still drink coca cola on &off despite my resolution to stop and I don’t drink as much water as I should. Anyway, NN posted a liquidised veg and fruit recipe on her blog which I decided to try out. To be honest the idea of drinking vegetable didn’t sound appealing to me but another part of me was curious and intrigued.

So I got my ingredients- some green grapes, a green apple and spinach.

I washed and threw all into my dedicated blender for smoothies (which I have only made once, actually my sister did when she was visiting from the states a few years ago, SMH for myself).

I added a little water and blended the mix- looked like green gooey. lol!

  

I poured into my cup. (Sorry not so clear photos)

At this point I confess I was scared to taste the gooey mix… but then I took the first sip… OMG.. It was de-li-cious!!! I kid you not… ! I took the second sip- yummmm. Princess was already asking for some so I gave her in a mug. She was gulping it, saying " hmm yummy" lol. The apple and the grapes downplayed the taste of the spinach which totally helped. My only issue was I didn’t like the feel of the apple skin in my mouth so decided to sieve the drink!

Much better!!!  The quantity reduced drastically and I probably lost some nutrients doing this but oh well... I gulped my tasty drink down. NN has a vitamix so her fruits including skin blend smoothly, lucky her! Next time I think I would just peel my apple. I was going to make more the next day but um Baale and Princess have chopped my grapes finish. So back to the market to get some more grapes.

This drink is full of nutrients (according to NN- "antioxidants, chlorophyll, phytonutrients, fibre, Vitamins A, C, K, E, B1, B6, Manganese, potassium and much more!") and it is lip-smacking, what more do you need? Seriously, you guys should try it out; your lives will never remain the same again :)

Now to some interesting news

1. We are giving away two powerful books on the soulsistas blog. Do check it out as it ends Feb 12.
2. We are also running a love chronicles series in the month of Feb. We have lined up some guest bloggers to tell us about their love stories and their marriages. It was kicked off by Gbemisoke on Wednesday. This is one series you don’t want to miss.

God bless people!

Managing my time

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I won’t necessarily call myself a procrastinator, but nowadays I have been procrastinating on doing things I need to do more often than not. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed that I have a lot on my plate but then I end up spending my time on unimportant things. So this is a call to action. I need to:

·      Curb time stealer activities such as: 

§  Watching TV bye bye judge judy

§  Facebook/twitter - actually I am not as frequent on Facebook & twitter as I used to be but still doesn’t hurt to reduce my time on these social sites even further.

§  Sleep- now this one is going to be the hardest because I love my sleep!!! Guys, any tips on how to get out of bed early? I was thinking about going to bed earlier but psychologically I see it as “yay more time in bed”. Sigh. I need help seriously

§  Blackberry chatting- apart from normal chatting, I am active on three BB groups. Go figure.

·      To help me actually do stuff I need to do I will-

§  Keep doing a to do list- outline what I need to do daily in order of priority and DO THEM.

§  Firm up my routine, and stick to it.

§  Eliminate distractions - switch phone off, switch internet off except it is needed for the work I need to do

§  Set reminders on my phone - I normally do this, just need to continue

§  Do one some task then reward myself with some play time e.g. browse online aimlessly, bb chatting or maybe TV

§  Remind my self that I don’t have to catch every ball thrown at me.

§  Delegate where I can- to Baale, my help, princess and friends.

How do you manage your time? I would love to know, maybe I can learn a thing or two and add to my list! :)

I am still selling the Figurine DVD, contact me on aloted@yahoo.com if you are in the UK and would like a copy. 

Not feeling Christmassy....

9 days till Christmas! Yet, I am not feeling “Christmassy” AT ALL- whatever that means. My colleagues at work keep asking "so have you done your Christmas Shopping?" Chris-tmas what?? Ya! Another means for them shops to get my hard earn currency right?

I was going to get a Christmas tree and some decorations but thought Princess will not let this Christmas tree rest, so that idea went down the drain. I'mma still get some decorations.

I was going to get a Christmas Chicken/Turkey to roast for the family on Christmas day, but I have never roasted a whole bird before in my life. What if it comes out a mess. Ok calm down-I could look up recipes- google is my friend and it can’t be that bad! A Question for cook experts!! – So Christmas day is on Sunday; do I leave the bird in the oven while we go to church? Or start roasting when I get back?? This is all assuming I buy the bird in the first place!!! Phew

I was going to do some Charity stuff this Christmas, all in the spirit of giving, but still haven't gotten round to that. Shame on me! Ok I still have 9 more days. Make a plan girl.

We were going to meet up with friends at their place on Boxing Day but due to circumstances beyond their control, that is not happening any more. Gutted! I was so looking forward to that.

Oh well!

Even though I am not feeling Christmassy…I am thankful for the gift of Christ, who in fact is the reason for the season. I am forever thankful HE was born to save me.

Christmassy feeling or not- I will make sure to have a wonderful Christmas day with Baale and Princess :)

So anyone out there like me not feeling Christmassy?

What are y'all doing this Christmas?

Thankful Post

It has been a loooong while I did a thankful post. I used to do it on Tuesdays but today is Wednesday. Since I feel like doing it now, I will and decide later what day of the week I'll like to do it. Fair enuff? To many dos, doing, did..phew...anyway here goes-

• I am thankful for the gift of life. I can never stop being thankful for this. I keep hearing of people dying all around but I am still here, and as long as I have breathe I will praise the Lord.

• I am thankful for Baale, he is the best thing that has happened to me. I am thankful for his love, friendship, care. He is a GREAT man and I love him :)

• I am thankful for Princess. She is a delight and is destined for greatness. She turns two in a few weeks. How time flies!

• I am thankful for provision. God has been faithful and he will never put me to shame.

• I am thankful for the ideas God has given me and I believe since he gave me these ideas he will provide the resources to implement them.

• I am thankful for my friends- blogger family inclusive. Y'all rock!

What are you thankful for?

Btw, I have decided to tag the following people in my Blow your trumpet post. Y'all didn't think I was joking right. LOL.

GNG

One + the one

Naijamum in London

Doll

Madame Sting

Favored Girl

Tyger

Nefertiti

Natural Nigerian

Myne Whitman

The only thing I ask is that you pls mention my post and link to it when you do your post. You can tag anyone if you like. Let's blow this trumpet!!!

Thots
Aloted

Blowing My Trumpet

The other day Nolimit and I were talking about how it is very very easy to find negative things to say about ourselves yet difficult to find positive things to say. Society has taught us to focus on the negative and not to blow our trumpets. Some times when people pay me comlipments I would think they want to get someting from me with no hidden agenda! It was hard to believe they actually meant those things.  I would even say something negative to make them change their mind about that good thing! Nowadays I am learning to say thank you and move on.

We need to credit ourselves more and know that we are full of "good stuff". Wonderfully made with talents by God!

Anyway back to Nolimit She came up with an idea- she was going to blog about 10 things she was proud of about herself. You know, ten positive things about Nolimit. I thought it was brilliant idea and decided I was going to do same. I don't know if she has done it yet but I look forward to reading about Nolimit blowing Nolimit's trumpet. hehe

So here I am about to put myself out there.  No "but this or but that",  just 100% positive content. Honestly, you don't have to agree with me on any of the points but this is Aloted blowing Aloted's trumpet in the most positive way ever!  :)

1) I am a very good cook. I actually find cooking therapeutic. I paticularly love cooking jollof rice, fried rice, any type of rice really and efo elegusi and I have been told they are t'oh bad (GOOD). I have also been picking up some new recipes from 9jaFoodie.

2) If I need any information about anything I will find it. I love researching and finding out new things. I have had a number of people ask for my help when they need information about something and 99% of the time I get the information they need.


3) I am very determined and result oriented. When I put my mind to something or set a goal I always achieve it by God's grace

4) I know how to manage money. Infact I am the financial secretary of the Aloted household.


5) I have great organisational skills. I am very good at organising events, trips, meetings. I get commended at work for organising my meetings and workshops efficiently.


6) I consider myself a loyal friend.


7) I am excellent with using Microsoft Word, Excel, Access, Visio and Powerpoint. I self taught myself and always find a way round any problems on these application.


8) I think I have something called Practical Intelligence, which according to Robert Sternberg is "the ability to adapt to everyday life by drawing on existing knowledge and skills. Practical intelligence enables an individual to understand what needs to be done in a specific setting and then do it." This has helped me a number of time at work especially when I have no understanding of the project. This  also helped me during my Msc in Operational Research, where for more than half of the time I was very clueless on the subjects but I managed to pass all my exams.


9) I look way younger than my age. I used to find this very annoying before especially when some people try to take advantage of me but now I find it rather amusing and will even find it more appealing when I turn 40 and look 25 30 ;)

10) My eyes are probably my best physical feature. Chinese looking eyes (yes o!). Princess inherited them from me which makes her an absolute cutie. lol


Phew, this was actually harder than I thought. I had to thinkkkk. lol. Negatives thoughts kept coming but I make sure I edited and re-edited just to keep it all positive yet truthful.


Ok so now it is your turn ( you knew this was coming, didnt you??). If you enjoyed reading my 10 positive points above, then go on over to your blog and blow your trumpet.  Please let me know when you do so I can go read. I will tag a few people if nobody conforms o.

Much love,
Aloted


photo credits- google images.

I have a new best friend- on blogville!

Most of you already know I have been natural for the past 3 years. If you don't then you can read all about that here.  Recently I have set hair/skin goals for myself and one of them is to use more natural homemade products on my hair/skin. As a result I have been doing a lot of research online about natural oils, how to make my own hair and skin conditioners, spritz, moisturisers etc. Not only is it ultimately cheaper, it is safer and healthier for me and princess.

The good thing about having a daughter is that she can be your guinea pig test subject. When I mix up my deep conditioners, I try it out on princess. Don’t worry I try it out as well (I can see all you defender of princess). The other day I mixed up coconut oil and honey to do a deep conditioner, I let it sit in hot water for 1 mins, put it on our hair , wrapped hair in cling firm for 20 mins, washed it off and then shampooed. Viola! Our hair came out really really soft and moisturised.

Ok I have digressed o as this isn’t the essence of this post. So yes from my research I discovered Natural Nigerian’s blog. Gosh, her blog is so informative and educative. I just learnt how to cleanse my face with the oil cleaning method (OCM) from her blog! OCM is amazing. The thing that also trips me is that she has a daughter as well so another opportunity to learn more stuff from her on how to take care of Princess' hair.

I have already told her on her blog she is my new blogville best friend but thought let me better shout it out on my blog as well, so she knows I am for real. Let the stalking friendship begin! :).

Natural Nigerian- thank you for taking time to blog and educate other Naturals about how to take care of their hair using your experience.

PS1- I think her tips can also work for team relaxed :D

PS2- I might share some of my natural hair goals and what I am doing with y'all later on.

God bless!

On Suspence and Thriller Books

This post was inspired by Tomexy of Diary of a Media Junkie. She made valid points about how romantic books can mess with your mind if you let them. Unlike Tomexy, I grew up reading a lot of detective series and novels. When some girls in secondary school were busy fighting over M&B (mills and boons), or Jackie Collins x-rated books, I was busy looking for detective books as they intrigued me. I found romantic books rather predicable. Same old story- boy meets girl, girl acts hard to get, boy wins girl over, and everything is rosy in la la land. A test of true love occurs, will they survive? Yes they always did! 99% of the time! Phew! After reading my first two three M&B to see what the hype was about and there wasn't any apart from unnecessary arousing, I moved back to my suspense and thriller books! Now note, I do not do horror books or movie, they freak me out. However books on solving mysteries & crime did it for me.


Anyway, I got initiated to the Famous Five; they were a joy to read, always going off on one adventure or the other. Then gradually I moved to Nancy Drew. I think I read all the series. She was like my role model then, I wanted to become a detective and solve mysteries. She also had a cute boyfriend (he was cute in my mind) to top up the matter :)


As I grew older (teenage years), amongst other books, I read Sidney Sheldon (all his books I think), then moved on to James Hadley Chase (JHC) and James Patterson. That was when trouble started. Ok before I go into that, anyone that has seen a JHC books know that the cover almost always has a picture of a half naked woman (the ones I saw and read). Why on earth I do not know. The pictures put me off the book as I though it was porno material. But a friend convinced me otherwise, so I decided to try it out. OMG, I got hooked! Chei! JHC is a baba mastermind when it comes to crime. It was a world of danger, theft, lying, murders and all the bad bad things in this world. I felt compelled to turn the pages quickly to reach the end of the book to find out who the killer was or how the killer got away. So much twists and tension! After some time, I started to become paranoid, yet I didn't stop reading them. James Patterson didn't make matters any easy with his psycho stories. I would be walking on the street and start looking at people suspiciously like they are about to attack and abduct me or something.

Anyhoo, one day I decided to put an end to it with the help of the Holy Spirit. I was beginning to live in fear. Even though the books were FICTION they were beginning to have an effect on my REAL life. Besides, my spiritual man was suffering as I was feeding myself with junk. Evil things were beginning to look attractive and normal albeit in fantasy world. I stopped reading all them books, and moved to Christian books, self help books, and inspirational books. Life became much better and saner.

Now please, I am not saying as Christians don't read or read thrillers or romantic books but to be careful not to let them mess with our minds. I still have some suspense books in my "library" which I hope to read some day as I think I am older, wiser and can handle them now. Besides those books don't have any hold over me any more. But emm, I am off JHC books o for life. As in if there a JHC recovered anonymous addict club( ya I just came up with that) I would be a chairwoman in that club. lol

But seriously if we can draw the line and keep a balance to these things, I guess we are good to go. Let the Holy spirit be your guide.

So I'll like to hear from you, did you read a lot when growing up, what type of books did you read? Do you think those books had any effect on you. Do you consciously choose what books to read?

Thanks for sharing!

What Aloted has been up to...

Hi people!

How goes it?? Hope you are all doing well?

You may or may not know about an exciting initiative a friend and I started last year but I would like to share it with you. FabXchange, (formerly known as Wardrobe Swap Party) is a cloth swapping company we started after we both found fashion treasures in each other’s wardrobes that the other didn’t need or wear. We realised that between us, our friends and women in the UK was a mountain of clothes rarely worn and sitting in wardrobes all over the UK.

Think of clothes you have bought in the store but are not exactly your size or don’t have the right fit and you never had the chance to return to the store. Think of clothing items you have worn once and know you will never wear again (because you don't want to be caught in the same outfit at that party lol). Think of quality clothing items in your wardrobe you hardly wear. Such items are what we welcome at our swap parties in the hope that they would go to new owners that would treasure them. We also swap shoes, bags and books.

Our cloth swapping venture gives ladies the opportunity to get new clothes into their wardrobe without going shopping. It also provides the chance to get rid of clothes that are hardly worn, and de-clutter their wardrobe in the process. It is the trendy way to do ‘ethical shopping’ and now ladies concerned with keeping the earth green can keep their carbon footprint down while getting something back.


Our exciting and entertaining cloth swapping parties also feature numerous appealing side attractions such as beauty and makeup giveaways, beauty makeovers, book giveaways, entertainment, fashion advice and the sale of accessories.

We provide other services that might be of interest to you, your friends or community.

We have had three events now and they have all been successful. This is one feedback (amongst others) we received from one of our attendees- "The swap party was full of fun and I made new friends. I got a new black evening dress, a mini jeans skirt (my husband thinks its gorgeous!), a Ralph polo top, just to mention a few. The organisers pulled it off beautifully well and I believe the subsequent ones will only get better. I recommend FabXchange to ladies out there."

More feedback can be found on our website.

As per my blogville family concerned, if this is something you would like to know more about or be a part of, then kindly

• like us on facebook- We are currently doing a giveaway on fb and twitter so maybe that might be an incentive for you;)
• follow us on twitter if you tweet - @fabxchange
• visit our website www.fabxchange.co.uk. follow us there for more details and leave us comments too!

I am seriously counting on you guys o cuz we need your support.... :)

Don't hoard the love, please tell your friends about us, as every woman needs to know how they can look good without breaking the bank!

Our next event is in July or August, God willing. More details will be available on fb, twitter and our web page soon. I hope to see the "Londoners" there or if you are in London then.

Thank you in advance. Any questions or suggestions do drop us an email at info@fabxchange.co.uk or leave your comments here!

Best
Aloted

Blog Award

Finally got round to doing this. I was presented the Versatile and Stylish award by Dee and @ilola

I really appreciate this and I am sorry for not acknowledging all this while. Forgive me pls!

The Rules are as followings:
1. Thank the person who gave you the award and link back to them in your post.
2. Tell us 7 things about yourself.
3. Award 15 other bloggers.
4. Contact these bloggers and let them know that they have won.

I shall obey rule 1 and 2. Thank you Dee and @ilola!!!

Rule 3 and 4- hmm I can't think of 15 specific bloggers to give this award too so I shall award it to all bloggers who read this post. You are all stylish and versatile in your own way. :)

SEVEN THINGS ABOUT MYSELF

1) I hate going shopping. Unlike a lot of people that find it therapeutic I find it tiring and draining. I'll rather shop online. Yes its so bad I do even my grocery shopping online. And no I don't miss out on window shopping. I browse a store online, add the things I like to my shopping basket, checkout to see the cost and promptly close the page. I find that therapeutic!

2) I have a love/hate relationship with my/our car. When I know I have to drive somewhere I freak out and start mapping the routes in my head as I fear the road will eat me up or I'll miss my way. But once I get behind the wheel and start blasting my music I am totally fine and don't want the driving to end.

3) I dislike people encroaching in my personal space esp when sitting on the train/tube. Most men I sit beside are guilty of this-putting their leg in your space. Ewww! Maybe the seats are too small for them, who knows. For that reason if I had a choice, I'll rather sit beside a lady who is also trying to manage her space.

4) I have only fixed fake nails twice in my life- first time was for writefreak's wedding because I was her CBM and I thought ok "Aloted make an effort". Second time was for my wedding. On both occasions I got rid of the nails the following week. They looked beautiful but I found them to heavy to carry and couldn't get on with my regular activities. I hear ladies get used to it after some time but I don't think I want to get used to that.

5) I like playing sudoku on my phone but I am still on the EASY stage. Tried the MEDIUM stage once and got stuck. *Shameful*

6) Generally I relate well with people around me but I have consciously chosen to have very few close friends because it takes a lot of emotional energy to invest in friendships and its intricacies. Marriage on its own is demanding enuff. Don't get me wrong o I love my friends and being married but I know how much effort I would put in each relationship so I'll rather go quality than quantity.

7) I have had natural hair for over 2 years now and I am still learning about maintaining it and different styles to wear my hair.
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My natural hair journey

Two years ago today, I started my natural hair journey out of choice. My hair was natural “by force” from the age of 0 till 16 as my mother forbade my elder sister and I to relax our hair till we finished secondary school. After my final exams, I was so excited to relax my hair and that was one of the first things I did. But you see my hair is very soft and anytime I relaxed it my scalp would burn. I felt this shouldn’t be, but what else could I do to my hair. I started considering going natural but was scared to do it as I wasn't sure how I would manage my hair.

I gradually came to a point where I used to relax my hair twice/thrice a year. After a while I began to get tired of putting chemicals on my hair. I felt God gave me this natural hair, why am I trying to make it look different killing my scalp and hair in the process? I decided to check online, read articles, watched videos and bought a book on natural hair. I didn’t want to do the big chop and regret it.

I transitioned for a while and on that fateful day, Nov 1 2008 I took a bold step and did the big chop. I didn’t set out to do it but it happened (long story). Baale was not a happy bunny. I had been hinted to him I was going natural but I don’t think he took me serious. When he saw my chopped up hair in comb twists later that day he was in utter shock and didn’t speak to me for sometime. We have come a long way from where we were two years ago maybe because I have come to a silent compromise with him- I braid my hair and fix weaves some times. Those are the times I don’t hear any complains. I think he has come to terms with my natural hair (more like given up on me) but still hopes some day I go back to relaxing my hair.

Like Baale, some friends and family find it perplexing that I have gone natural. Some quietly wondered while some have asked me out rightly what on earth I am doing. Some people see it has your hair is unkempt. Well, I try to explain myself in one sentence because anything more than that might result into an argument. My hair is not a function of who I am, it is a part of me but I am not my hair. What I decide to do with my hair is my personal choice. The same way you have decided to relax your hair is the same way I have decided not to. I don’t judge you because you have relaxed hair. God loves us all and I doubt it is our hair that will determine where we end up when we die.

Some have even gone as far as saying, “if you like don’t relax your hair but if Princess wants to relax her hair don’t stop her”. LOL. My reply usually is to laugh and say I will tell Princess the same thing my mother said to my elder sister and I- “nothing touches your hair till you leave secondary school, after that if you want to put jerry curls on one side and tint the other side that one na your own palaver.” Hope that answers the question.

My natural hair journey in summary has been full of high and low moments. Frustrating days esp. when I can’t think of what to do with my hair. Right now I am considering chopping it all up and letting my hair grow again. Hmmm. Whatever the case I don't see myself relaxing my hair again.

I think it is safe to say that going natural isn’t for the faint hearted. It is probably against everything you know right now and what the BLACK/Africa media, culture, or society agree with e.g some African companies won't employ you because of it, some hairdressers will put their nose up and refuse to braid your hair, some will try to charge you more (happened to me). You need to make the choice for yourself and do your research. I am glad I have inspired one or two people in helping them make that final decision to go natural.

So today, I wish myself happy two years of going natural and will like to give a shout out to all the natural hair bloggers (as at the last time I checked) I know. It is a narrow road we are on (if I may say so myself) and only a few travel it so we should be celebrated.

Standtall, tygernity, favoured girl, tolatino, jaycee, archiwiz, FFF, Scarlet, doll.

If u are a natural girl like me, hola! For my relaxed hair friends as well, I love you too. Muah! ;)

Knock knock! Anybody home???

My peeps! How far naa! Just thought to drop a note to say we are still alive and kicking- me and my blog that is! I sure sound like a broken record. Geez!

Please how do you blogville mothers do it? Combining career, wife duties, mother duties and blogging?? please show me the way o, I beg una. I am still on maternity leave so I can't claim work is taking up my time. So we know where all my time is going to and we all know it ain't blogging!

Ok I think what I should do is resume my thankful post abi? That should give me something to blog about. Hopefully...

My little princess is 5 months today! Yippee! she is growing up into such a smart cutie if I may say so myself. In fact, I give all glory to God for her life!

Ok so this is me signing out and should be back here with my thankful tuesday post next week by God's grace. Writefreak darling, please remind me o cuz i'mma just forget! LOL

Ok let me go do some blog rounds now.

God bless!

Gone too long...(Another Milestone!)

How are you all doing? Fine I believe. Did you miss me? Me, I missed you guys o. Thanks to those who checked up on me via email, facebook, blogger comment page. I appreciate it. God bless you.

I have been gone too long I don't even know where to start from. Ok let me start by sharing my wonderful news which a few bloggers know about already. It is weird because I keep saying my blog is not a personal blog per se but an inspirational one. However I feel I owe it to you guys (my blogville family) to share my good news and the Lord's doing in my life, like when I got married.

Ok enough of the suspense. About a month ago, I gave birth to my adorable princess. She is such a delight and keeps amazing me everyday. My pregnancy experience was amazing apart from the first 3 months of morning sickness. The labour experience was out of this world. I am sure other blogger mamas can testify that it is like going through the valley of death but totally worth it when you see your bundle of joy. I thank God for safe uncomplicated delivery. Baba God is ever faithful. He is too much!

I pray for bloggers known and unknown who:

- are currently pregnant that God will give them supernatural childbirth. Mother and Child(ren) and even daddy will come out of the experience alive and well.

- are waiting on God for the fruit of the womb. Children are the heritage of the Lord and it is HIS will for us to multiply and dominate the earth. Blessed is the fruit of your bodies in Jesus name!

So you might ask how does it feel to be a mummy? LOL, well I am just enjoying the ride as each day comes with different experiences. I am taking each day at a time. Baale is excited to be a daddy and I can tell Princess will be a daddy's girl.


N.B- Hopefully I will continue with my celebrity series very very soon.

Too much!

Sorry this is coming late o!

Special thanks to Writefreak, Afrobabe, Nolimit, BSNC, Scarlet, Rita, theicequeen, Tigeress, doll, Kemi Penelope, Enkay (birthday mate!!!), SSD, Standtall, Funmie D rebirth, Buttercup, Laide XSchoolNerd, Nefertiti, Good Nigerian Girl, Parakeet, Bumight, Olufunke, Temite, Seye for the birthday wishes via blogger, facebook, voicemail, email, messenger, ecards etc. You guys are just tooooooooooooooooooo much!!!! Mwuahhh. God bless you all.

Easter baby like me, I had loads of fun on my day courtesy Baale. I went to the spa for a full body massage, manicure and pedicure. It was very refreshing and I felt pretty. ;o)

I thank God I am still alive today to declare his glory. By his grace, many more successful years to come for all of us. Amen!

I am getting very close to 30 and I am not finding it funny at all.

Will be back with a proper update.

Honest Scrap Award and other sturvs

I was given the Honest Scrap Award almost a month ago by YakeenNaijaBabe. Thanks babe, I really appreciate it. So the deal is I have to share ten honest things about myself now.

1. I can sleep for Nigeria, Africa and the United Kingdom all together. I would be a millionaire by now if I got paid for the number of hours I CAN sleep in a day.
   
2. First time I permed my hair was after secondary school. Sometime last year, I realised perming/putting chemicals in my hair was not for me, so i did the big chop and now I proudly wear my natural hair. Still looking for more natural style ideas. Anyone?
3. As a child & teenager i was an extrovert; quiet outspoken but now I seem to be more in touch with my inner man and do not care so much for outings and parties. Old age?
4. I am good with organising meetings in the office but rubbish with organising space. Thank God for Baale in my life
5. I didn't throw my bouquet at my wedding reception, I brought it back home (UK)! My logic then was it was too beautiful and besides i paid for it. LOL. Now it is "panti" (junk) at home.
6. I only use hot water to bath. Cold water is a no no.
7. I love the idea of food more than food itself. Explanation- I like cooking but when it comes to eating the food after cooking it, I sometimes get bored with it while other people are enjoying the food.
   
8. The only form of exercise I do is walking. Now that I drive, it is harder to do my only exercise. Sigh
   
9. I wore braces for 2 years as an adult
10. I love Jesus :)

I am suppose to pass this on to 7 people but men I no fit. Too many bloggers I love. Pardon moi.

Naija Blogger Award
I just found out today that I was nominated for best religious blog. I am honoured. Thank you o. Ok so the competition is a bit daunting- Jaycee & Rita. That means I will beg you to vote for me. Those two were kuku nominated for other awards, so here's the deal, vote for them in the others and just leave this reglious one for me. Fair enuff? LOL. OK in addition to begging, I will pray that the Lord will minister to your hearts to vote for Aloted. God bless you as you vote :o)

Update on my Dad
Thanks again for all your support and prayer. He is getting better now. Still in the hospital but should be discharged very soon

Have a blessed week and happy new month.

Aloted Unveiled...Somewhat...

Actually this is just to reveal answers to the 2 truths and 1 lie meme I did late last year. "Finally!", did I hear Good Nigerian Girl say? GNG has been bugging me to update on this.



I was going to do an analysis on who got it right or wrong and how people answered but I haven’t had time so I’ll just spill. Surprisingly most of you got the answer right. Not sure if I am too happy about that, lol. It probably shows how predictable I am or my questions were not tricky enough.

Oh well, here goes

1) I once jumped out of a moving vehicle- Very true and it was not a molue (big Lagos bus). It was in a cab o. I was 17 years old when it happened. I was on my way to see my friend and decided to take a cab. I knew how much the cab fare was since I normally visited. When we nearly reached, I gave the cab guy his money (mistake, I should have waited till I alighted) and he was like the price had increased. I was like no way. We exchanged some words and he said he wasn’t going to let me out. I started panicking at this point. I noticed he was moving slowly. Lo and behold a thought came to my mind to jump out! The guy was still yarning but I was busy calculating how to go about this in my head and told myself I could do it. I opened the door, put one foot out. I heard the guy saying, “ehn to ba bo le” (what! if you get out). I didn’t even answer. Next thing, I saw myself rolling on the road! I quickly pulled myself up, dusted my body, straight faced and walked across the road to the other side to where my friend lived. I didn’t look back. I am sure the cab guy was dazed. I still can’t believe I did that and I thank God there were no other cars on the road. In short I am thankful I am alive to come and testify his goodness to you all.
No it did not happen in Lagos.

2) I was a virgin till I got married- True. No story there. Actually there is. Contrary to what you might believe, it wasn’t easy o but God helped me through ALL temptations esp from wolves. I am very glad I waited. I shall stop here. LOL..you all were waiting for gist abi. If u want gist, email me at aloted@hotmail.com and we shall take it from there.

3) I love baking cakes- Lie. I have only baked a cake once in my life and I was helped by my aunt and a cake recipe. To think my mum used to bake all our birthday cakes in different designs and even ice them. Sad, I never paid attention. Was always licking cake mix. Actually like rethots said, if I knew how to bake well well, I probably would love baking.


I particularly liked Mimi answer for being different..and Rethots for his logic.

On to some more exciting news. Standtall is featuring me in her Thursday interview TODAY. I feel so very honoured. If you want to know more about my thoughts on some stuff she asked, please go have a read here. In fact whether you want to know my thoughts or not, I command you to go there now now. (winks)

Afrobabe, I am now the ruling celebrity on blogville. Hehehehehe

True Lies

Ok I was tagged by Buttercup in the 2 truths and 1 lie meme. Y’all have to guess which of these 3 statements are truths and a lie:


1) I once jumped out of a moving vehicle
2) I was a virgin till I got married
3) I love baking cakes


I hereby tag-
Good Naija Girl
Writefreak
Nolimit
Tyger
~Mimi~ and
Simeon OMO Baba.

Buttercup didn’t leave the rules as she didn’t know them, so I’ll just follow what she did on her blog. For those that were tagged, you have to list the truths and lie, tag those you want to and let them know they've been tagged.

Not sure how soon I am suppose to reveal which ones are the truth and which is the lie. Buttercup hasn’t given us her results yet, so let’s see ….

So what are you waiting for? Get cracking! ;o)

Desperate Driver

One of my goals this year was to learn how to drive. Isn't it so sad and embarrassing to know that as old as I am I cannot operate a car!!! I’ll see ladies younger than me cruising in their posh ride and I’ll just shake my head. Well I refuse to take all the blame for not knowing how to drive. I’ll give 50% to my father.

You see, I went to a boarding school and then did my first degree outside Nigeria so basically those years were not the best time to learn how to drive. When I came back to Nigeria to do my NYSC I finally decided it was time to learn this thing! I went to a driving school, as there was no one in the family who had my time. My instructor thought I was a quick learner and I was pretty excited about the whole driving experience. One day my dad asked me to drive the family to church and men the car (a Volvo) refused to work o. Anyway I managed to drive us to church but my father was lamenting all the way. He was like “you this girl, you cannot drive yet ”. That’s how my dad believed I was not any good and refused to release any of his cars for my use.

I didn’t worry too much as I got a job in Lagos and forgot all about driving. Seeing how people drive crazily in Lagos discouraged me profoundly from pursuing my driving career. I neglected the whole thing till I felt the urge again…you know seeing all those Lagos babes in their Rav4 etc. LOL. Anyway at this point, I asked my dad to sell me his 504 (I know, I know, very razz, but I was getting desperate at this point). Anyway the man went back and forth over selling the car to me. To cut the long story short, he didn’t sell me the car. You can see why I am putting half blame on him although i think he was scared I'll probably have an accident or something. Anyway I fashied (forgot) his side and went to another driving school. I was really determined that I had to know how to drive. I was coming to the UK to do my masters and I felt I had to learn this art of driving before leaving. I got similar comments from my new instructor that I was a natural driving blah blah.

I got to the UK and once again didn’t get round to driving. Well those who live in the UK know how it can be. You can’t drive without a license. Actually people do but it is against the law and I didn’t want to start thinking of the consequences if I was caught and besides I personally think it is wrong. I did have an international license from Nigeria but somehow didn’t get to driving.

Ok fast forward to two years later- beginning of 2008. As part of my goals for the year, driving and getting my license was at the top of the list. I had had enough and felt I had dragged this whole driving thing for too long. Kilode??? (Why??). Bus drivers that might have not gone to school can drive, so why can’t I. Correct babe like me. I was like aloted, this is the year o. You have to get your license and get driving!

So in April I enrolled in a driving school (kai, yet another one) and had to start from scratch. Learning how to drive and then pass the driving test is another ball game in the UK. At this point I was wishing I was back in Nigeria where you just use bold face to “enter” the road. Abi practice makes perfect. But over here, you have to do a theory test before you can take the practical test. All that procedure didn't really bother me, it was the money I had to pay for driving classes that was biting me. Do not be deceived, learning to drive in the UK is EXPENSIVE. In fact, it is an investment. Heck that was why I waited till April to get into that financial commitment.

Nawa o, this story is getting long o. Hen, hen, where was I? Ok I started driving classes and was beginning to feel confident again about my driving. I even mentioned it in one or two of my ten things Tuesday. I took my practical test in June and I failed it! I was quite devastated. I knew at this point I could drive but the driving test was so nerve wrecking I fumbled. On a consoling note, only about 35% of people pass their first time. But still I was really gutted! All that money! Kai! That was mainly what I could think about. Husby was really cool about the whole thing. He believes till this day that the examiner purposely failed me (cuz am a black girl init? LOL)

Ok, don’t worry, I am nearly done with my story. So I took a month break and decided to ditch my instructor. I didn’t have any issues with him actually but I felt I needed a second "view". At this point I also considered going the easy route- doing my test with an auto car, but I felt that was accepting defeat. Why should I not be able to pass my test with a manual, meanwhile if you pass the auto test you are restricted to driving only auto cars. For all you auto drivers, you cannot really drive o..just accept it now now..LOL, who cares abi? Anyway I got another instructor who taught manual and I was glad I did. DI (driving instructor) seemed very passionate about teaching how to drive and kept on going on and on about how many of his students passed first time and how he loved his job. This actually boosted my confidence. I took fewer lessons with him, ta le fe je ni gbese (I had no more extra money to dash (give) anyone).

I was feeling really on top of things, and felt more prepared for my next test. Days before my test, I had been praying seriously for favour with the examiner because I really didn’t want to go through all of the driving test after this time.

I felt nervous again, I tire for me and nervousness o, such that at the beginning of the test I could hardly feel my legs and I was like “oh no, not now, legs you have to perform o”. I made a blunder on one of the manoeuvres and in my head I was like ye I don fail (I have failed) but I kept at it and my legs felt better. I made sure I kept doing my mirror checks (people fail primarily for this reason- not checking their mirrors and blind spot). I wore dangle earrings so the man will know when I make any head movement. LOL.

Anyhoo we got back to the test centre and the guy was like “Is this your first attempt” and I replied “No, my second”. He goes “Ok I will give you a pass, but you know you nearly messed up there”. Omo I felt like kneeling down and prostrating for him at the same time. I PASSED!!!!! Tears of joy came streaming down, I felt like saying one conc Yoruba prayer for the guy but I just kept my cool. He gave me a blue paper to use as a temp licence and wished me all the best. I was so excited I hugged the DI…hehehe. He was pretty happy for me as well.

Hubsy was so excited for me, he took me out later that evening to celebrate. Meanwhile, guess who the first person I smsed to share the good news- My dad!

My sms: How are you sir? Just wanted to let you know I took my practical driving test today and I passed! Thank God. So I am now an official road user.

His reply: My dear daughter, I am proud of you. Congratulations. When next I come to Britain you will come and pick me from the airport

Dreading this already..LOL!!!

THANK GOD OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I DON PASS!!!

Old age or what??

Over the last couple of weeks I have had 3 bizarre cases of absentmindedness …not sure if its old age or carelessness or restlessness or what, maybe you guys can help figure it out.

Incident 1- I went to the shops to get something I needed to send off through my aunt to Naija. I was running late to catch the train so that day me sef I know I was really scattered. Anyway I got the stuff found my way to the station and stood on the queue to get a ticket and at the same time watching the time as the train was fast approaching. When the queue got to the person before my turn I decided to bring out my debit card so I could pay the guy fast and jump on the train, lo and behold my card was nowhere in sight. At this point I was not impressed at all with myself or my card! Where on earth did I throw this card?!!! Luckily I had some cash on me so I got my ticket and decided to go look for my card. I was already fuming because at this point I obviousily couldn’t catch the train. Anyway I went back to all the shops I went to and fortunately the first shop I went too had found my card! Oya give me my card they said they needed to see evidence that I was the owner. Fair enough I thought, only to check my wallet to find out that ALL the cards I had on me were in my maiden name! Grrrhhh Abi which kain rubbish be this. I bring everything out and try to explain to the lady that I recently got married and so changed my name and didn’t have any other id in my new name. The woman no gree o. She said she needed to see anything in my new name. I tried again and said “look my initials are the same, I am the same person, see, this is my old debit card, blah blah”. Rara o..the woman no look my side. At this point I was UPSET. I angrily left and went all the way home. I tried to calm myself down by saying the woman was only doing her job but I was still upset jo. Anyway to cut the long story short I took my office id card, my cheque book and my bills (yes o, se u want to know if its me or not, I will show you). I even wanted to take my marriage ceritifiate but I was like this babe take it easy..lol. Anyway I showed them that I was me (lol) and they gave me back my card. Thank God for that!

Incident 2- a week later or so I go to the same shop, bought some groceries and thought to use the self service section so I wouldn’t stay on the queue. I decided I needed some cash so after paying I asked for £10 cash back. Conscious of not wanting to lose my card again, I made sure I put the card in my purse, took my receipt and left. Half way home, I realised I didn’t take the £10 from the machine! Omo men I was like, you this girl what is your problem. I run back to the shop and prayed quietly that I won’t have any issues. I spoke to one of the shop attendants and explained to him I forgot to take my £10 and showed him my receipt to show that I indeed asked for cash back. I actually felt stupid at that point. I thought the guy was going to stress me and start ask me silly questions to proof that I didn’t have the £10 but thankfully he opened the till beside the machine and gave me £10. I hurriedly said thank you and scrammed before he changed his mind!

Incident 3- This time, it happened at work. I went to the canteen to get some lunch and decided to bring it back to my desk. I bought lunch, went back to the office and ate my lunch. After eating I needed to make a call then I realised my phone was missing! Ah! Ki lo fe fa gbogbo nonsense yi. God please I hope am not running mad. I started looking round my desk, called the phone with my desk phone but it just rang out. Anyway I dashed back to the canteen and asked the lady that works there if any phone was reported missing, she replied no. I wasn’t sure what to do at this point but something, I guess the Holy Spirit told me to ask one of the lady at the check out point. There were two of them and I felt inclined to ask one of them in particular. Anyway I walk up to her and ask her if she found any phone. She looked at me oddly and said “is this your phone”, I was like “yes, thank you” and left. That what how I found my phone o.

Ok I am glad all three cases had happy endings albeit some stress was involved but I am still a bit worried that the incidences above happened in the space of 3 weeks. I won’t say I am a very vigilant person but I usually double check myself whenever I go out to make sure I don’t loose anything. Sincerely I don’t understand what the issue is…do u think it is a one off or a “three off “in my case. Do things like these happen to you (I know it happens to writefreak some times) but would you call my incidences carelessness or what??

Thoughts appreciated!

N.B- Pls ignore all errors, no time to read over and i want to post it NOW! hehe