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3 Jun 2009

Are you for real???

Warning-Rant post


Blogging this evening was the last thing on my mind but if I don't share this, I might just burst! I hardly rant on my blog, as it doesn't fit into the purpose of this blog but I think this one is necessary.

I left work early today as I was not feeling so well. Been in a foul mood because of hay fever and my boss stressing me at work etc. I thought browsing through blogville will cheer me up but alas! I had barely left standtall's blog talking of her illiterate "friend" and I was still reeling from what the guy had to say about women, only to be confronted with more drama at home!

So Baale comes home with one of his friends. This is someone I get along with very well and kinda respect. I always make sure he eats when he comes over. Anyway this evening, I asked Baale to sort him out as I was still feeling poorly. Everything was going fine (actually I wasn't even listening to their conversation, as I was still browsing through blogville) till mr friend lets call him T for talkative..he talks a lot kai said he wanted to watch the Apprentice as it was the semi-final show or something like that. I am not sure what they were talking about but next thing I hear T say "I have never come across an intelligent woman before". I was like "excuse me, what did you just say?" He repeated himself, that women are not intelligent. At first I thought he was joking. I was like T "how can you make such a statement". He was still forming, I was like "Baale, pls I want this guy out of my house, how dare he insult women". I was really upset o. I asked him if he even knew the meaning of what intelligent what and guess all he could come up with "challenging". Clap for yourself intelligent man. I went as far as saying only illiterates talk like that and that I was so sorry for whoever married him. I know that was harsh but I had to say something! To be honest at that point, any respect I had for him, as per Baale's friend, diminished. I really wish I could send him out of my house but for Baale. Baale told him not to talk like that but he was still mis-yarning.

I now asked him how many men and women were left on the Apprentice (I don't follow it that much) and he was like that's TV blah blah, but check this there were four women and 1 man left. I really wanted to fight o but Baale told me to take it easy so I kept quiet but was seriously fuming inside. To be honest T knows how to wind somebody and I didn't want to fall for it at the same time I wanted him to take that statement back about women.

Anyway I kept quiet and heard him say something about even the top women he had worked with in banks were not smart. That in meetings they keep quiet and all they can do is market. In my mind I was like wow...that is such a dumb thing to say. This is someone who is out of job o (let me not even go into that story). I also heard him say he isn't saying women are not good with other things and that he wasn't generalising. I was just shaking my head that this guy is very very dumb...what part of "all the women I have met are not intelligent" is not generalising. I decided to ignore him.

Guess what at the end of the Apprentice show, Sir Alan fired the guy...even though i don't follow it I was so happy...and was like "you see now and women are not intelligent". Mr T was still yarning dust. At this point I wanted to ask Baale, pls when is your friend leaving but decided to chill. Thankfully, a few minutes later Mr T decides to go home and said good night. I didn't answer. He repeated his goodnight again and I was like "sebi i am not intelligent enough to have a conversation with you so please just dey go". He was like " pls o don't take it personal" and I said "I am a woman so I will take it personal".


I was so glad when he left, I felt like disinfecting my living room. Se if I had known he was coming to say all that nonsense in my house, I won't have offered him food in the first place. LOL. He eats my food, and then has the energy to insult women in my house. Mscheeewww.

When Baale came back from seeing him off, he apologised and said he can't believe T made that statement. That he must have real issues. I totally agree, he either has major issues or he is just a male chauvinist. I am not sure if I can relate to him on the same level any more. Any one that thinks less of women cannot be in my good books.

Men like this get on my nerves. For a long time I felt many men were narrow minded but decided to give them the benefit of the doubt but apparently they are still plenty out there and one of them is Baale's friend. Sad very sad.




50 comments:

  1. Very obviuosly dude has yet to meet too many owmen.. else he's totawlly slef-deluded... Not worth the energy either case!

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  2. Awwwwww....but you ignore people like that now who obviously have NO idea what they are talking about...A lot of the smartest, most brilliant and innovative people in the world are women...

    Forget everything he said and focus on feeling better dear...

    Happy New Month and thank God it's Friday tomorrow :)

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  3. Well he's the one getting the short end of the stick. Bcos trust me dude like that will end up with a woman that will school him and put him in his place... women are not intelligent ko.

    People really dnt think b4 they speak...sad!

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  4. You did better then me! I honestly believe that he has major issues going on. Something happened to him and let him bitter towards women. Thanks for keeping your composure. You had me laughing when you said, "sebi i am not intelligent enough to have a conversation with you so please just dey go". Ahahaaaa. Wish I was there, we could have tag teamed him.

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  5. Can you imagine. Women are not intelligent, is he for real. Like you said the guy was just yarning dust.
    When people have nothing to talk about why don't they just keep quiet..

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  6. Mscheewww
    men like this lie to themselves to make themselves feel good! Ode! Just becuz woman get sense pass you, you go begin dey open ya mouth dey talk rubbish! u handled this better than i would! Mscheeewwww, by the time i would have been done with him, he go go find his Creator...

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  7. I would never have believed any human being would say such a thing...

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  8. I can imagine how u would have felt, reading this, I am so so pissed, can u imagine the nonsense in his dumb head. I feel sorry for all the women in his life.

    If I was there, I bet he will see hell and come back. Mscheeww!!!!

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  9. Reading this even made me angry. I can imagine how you felt. he is an IDIOT! He simply has no respect for women and he is very deluded. He hasn't met any intelligent women. Hmmph! It just shows how ignorant he is.

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  10. As sad as this is i couldnt help but laff at u wanting to disinfect the living room after he left, and your regret at feeding him. Anyways, for me, i totally ignore pple like that cos i just dont think they're worth my arguments.

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  11. intelligence doesnt have naything to do with gender...
    there are some really dumb men and women...
    that guy obviously belongs in the 18th century mscheeww..........
    arrant nonsense

    PS hope u feeling better now

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  12. hope you are feeling better now.

    yes i guess some men are idiots like that - its sad
    and its sadder cos many of them seem to be nigerian!

    my place for work you should see them!

    and the idiot by saying women are not intelligent, is not only an idiot, he is rude and undiplomatic!
    does he forget you are a woman?

    or what is his point....

    next time he comes offer him a lukewarm drink and no food! since you are just a dumb woman!
    pshew

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  13. I wont call him a chauvinist. He's just a man that has no sense.

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  14. It's unbelievable that some men still have that belief.. I hope you're ok now, egbon?

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  15. you should have just ignored him, people like that are not worth arguing with, he is probably too stupid to see the light anyway

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  16. Thank you for standing up for women when he made that comment! Thank God that you did not just look and smile politely while he made such sexist, chauvinistic and ignorant comment. Even though I don't know you, I feel sooo proud :-)

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  17. Mscheeeeew!
    Tufia kwa!

    I give you credit for that patience. Oh My. I would have kicked him out, head first and let the door hit him in his NYASH.

    On a serious note though, he is a poor man. His loss. How incredibly insulting.

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  18. thanks for all your wonderful comments..my fellow supporters..including DBagguci :)

    yes I could have ignored him but he was in my home...disrespecting me and other women..like Tyger said...he seem to forget i am a woman. If he said it on the street or something, that's his problem..but in my home..after feeding him? No way! Even Baale knew his friend was totally wrong.

    Sincerely, i agree with lady A, I think smart women have dealt with him..so he has issues with women. I pray he sorts out his issues.

    Thanks Lolia, Buttercup, OPTIMISTIC_alyzzz,Tyger...still at home but getting better, hope to resume work on Monday..I appreciate

    Madam LG, wetin be "nawawa"???

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  19. What can I say? It is obvious the guy has plenty issues, and if care is not taken.....well let keep quite.

    He is out of a job, amongst other things, so he must have been very hungry on the night...lol

    God bless.

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  20. All I can do is feel sorry for the guy. I think you handled it well: I too would not have been able to ignore him and pretend I didn't her what he was saying. He needs to know that women are not stupid enough to allow ignorance and insults against their own sex in their own homes.

    Have a good weekend, lovely.

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  21. He is sooo ignorant....
    jobless somebori......
    yeye person...
    I would have been very pissed if i were in your shoes......

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  22. Ignorance is what is truly dangerous in this world. People who are confident in their ignorance are even more scary. Saying that women are not intelligent is well, a very ignorant thing to say. Saying that men are not intelligent is also an ignorant thing to say. Saying that children are not intelligent is also ignorant...lol d guy does not even deserve to be answered because the statement is too lacking in logic to be honoured with a defensive argument...there is simply nothing to say, at all. you will not succeed in making him "see the light" lol

    pele that you had to endure that o

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  23. I only have one thing to say... He's on the right track. Leave him in his path of foolishness. Destruction is the end of ignorance.

    How u dey, love?

    ... Well, 3 things lol

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  24. dude sounds rather dumb oh. what nonsense. i agree wit ur hubby, d guy obviously has issues

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  25. You did the right thing Lol! kicking him out. I'll just pray for his eyes to be enlighten.

    Can't believe people still think this way even in our so call 21st century

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  26. I know emotions are kinda high right but excuse me while I laugh.
    LMAORF
    The dude ranks high on the "dundee" scale...he obviously doesnot know what a woman looks like; else he would see you as one, and also recognise the female multitude on d apprentice as women. I salute ur move of asking him to bounce. perfect.

    Heck! Some of my most interesting conversationists are female. PLUS my mama sharp, my sis too. my woman sef go sharp.

    Maybe what he was bothered about was that women were TOO intelligent...

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  27. ps: Is that ur husband you refer to as "Baale?"
    Cool...
    you sure ARE intelligent
    :-)

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  28. the guy is just an ignorant unenlightened fool!!!

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  29. *Hiss*

    What a sad, ignorant idiot. If that had happened in my own house, I would have given the guy a few choice words and he'll never step into my house again. Imagine the rubbish!

    (Okay let me calm down)

    Hope you and Baale are fine my dear, don't worry too much about the stress at work and issues.
    LOL @ you wanting to disinfect your house after he left.

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  30. ignorant ass... thats all i have to say

    hope you're better now

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  31. * hisses* dont mind him jare

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  32. T sounded so ignorant...mscheeww

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  33. Hmmm I need to say how proud of you I am really. And the purpose of your blog isn’t defeated by blogging about it. The purpose this time is respect for women. I love that.

    T is a misfit for men, I tell you, and he is one of those men that make it difficult for other men to be appreciated. He is out of job and yet he’s intelligent. He forgot that woman gave birth to him and must have nurtured him like hell to make him so intelligent [well, since he thinks he is].

    Any intellectual or intelligent individual will not make such statement at all; well it shows that dude is so so so dumb!

    See I listen a lot in public buses and come and see how it’s easy to insult women and how other women will even back up them men insulting women without thinking. This is one of the reasons why I think men that feel women don’t have a right to fight for their rights are jokers. We have being taking for granted for so long hence T useless remark.

    Let me stop here but before I go, do you know how many dumb, non-thinking men I have met? There are so many and yet I didn’t think all men are dumb. Kai, so wrong of T to talk like that! I wont say you should not forgive him o but stop giving him food in your house.

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  34. Hmmm I need to say how proud of you I am really. And the purpose of your blog isn’t defeated by blogging about it. The purpose this time is respect for women. I love that.

    T is a misfit for men, I tell you, and he is one of those men that make it difficult for other men to be appreciated. He is out of job and yet he’s intelligent. He forgot that a woman gave birth to him and must have nurtured him like hell to make him so intelligent [well, since he thinks he is] or perhaps he got the intelligence from his dad….

    Any intellectual or intelligent individual will not make such statement at all; well it shows that dude is so so so dumb!

    See I listen a lot in public buses and come and see how it’s easy to insult women and how other women will even back up them men insulting women without thinking. This is one of the reasons why I think men that feel women don’t have a right to fight for their rights are jokers. We have being taken for granted for so long hence T useless remark.

    Let me stop here but before I go, do you know how many dumb, non-thinking men I have met? There are so many and yet I didn’t think all men are dumb. Kai, so wrong of T to talk like that! I won’t say you should not forgive him o but stop giving him food in your house.

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  35. Mscheeeew!
    T for talkative isn't worth a pint of my saliva at all!

    He is the dumbest guy ever! In this day and age when both men and women are out-striving each other in every sphere of life, this one brings his stupidity and hangs it out there for all to see.

    Na wa o!

    Pele mai deear!

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  36. That guy is an "OLODO". He knows nothing about women. . . cos if he does, he would not misyarn like that!

    How are you jare?

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  37. you need to send this guy to me for some serious schooling and tongue lashing ore...what the....! By the time i finish with him en...he will know that Jehovah is Lord, lol...he's such a cow! nonsense! nice of baale to apologise!

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  38. Can u imagine??...dis guy is obviously living in denial. How can he say that??...What will he say about women like Dora Akunyili, Ndi Okereke, Hilary Clinton & and the rest?, those ones are not women, they are men abi?...His head is shaking ...MSchewww!

    No vex jare!

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  39. YES I THINK WOMEN ARE NOT INTELLIGENT!

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  40. LOL. Don't mind that statement above. just kidding

    You know, honestly, I think women are more intelligent than men. I know this could also cause ripples. I have thought this through several times. I have my points. I am not a feminist and I don't practice chivalry...really! Despite the tone of many of the topics on my blog, in real life, I am a little more serious, but honestly, I believe women are more intelligent...and I can prove it.
    Before we go to human beings, lets check out the female species in animals...and you know I love animals.

    In fact,I could go all the way to say women are STRONGER than men. But what is strength? Is strength about the physical?

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  41. guy is just a brute. Ignore him totally.

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  42. lol.. C'mon now, relax, he probably had a drink or 2 b4 landin' @ ur place.

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  43. Egbon, hope you're good? Just checking on ya!

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  45. @Seye: Don't put down one fallacy by putting forth another. You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. Intelligence has nothing to do with gender. And you can develop the most flowery versification for "true strength" conceivable by man, but the truth of the matter is that when men are spoken of as being stronger, it is in a largely physical sense...and it is a simple natural fact.

    @aloted: T is quite unlearned. It's unfortunate, but old ideas like that are hard to completely stamp out. You did good not to let yourself go completely though. How have you been?

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  46. For someone like that there is just no need to bother. You tried at least you were able to form words, a disgusted and bewildered look is all I would have had.

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  47. Good Post! Really impressive. Thanks.......

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  48. How do I make a good impression on a girl I don't know? Warning: large read!?

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  49. Thank you for standing up for women when he made that comment! Thank God that you did not just look and smile politely while he made such sexist, chauvinistic and ignorant comment.

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