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29 Jul 2008

Ten things Tuesday (03)

Hi. I am back with another ten things tuesday. Here's a link to my last list.

Remember in all things give thanks!!!


  1. For wisdom and discernment this past week
  2. For safety & protection
  3. For all my friends who gave birth this past week- men loads of people are having babies.
  4. The UK visa embargo has been lifted in Nigeria! And my friend has now applied for her visa
  5. Was believing God for something last week but it didn’t go as I expected yet I still give thanks because I know it is for a reason
  6. I have launched my business!!! Going slowly but surely. Will update y’all with more details soonest besides I am looking for customers :D
  7. For summer...its so warm right now..I am loving it!
  8. For my wonderful loving husband
  9. My granduncle passed away at over 80! He lived a well fulfilled life.
  10. For all my blog friends. You are all just too much!!!!
What are you thankful for this week?

N.B- Just to let you know I have not forgotten about the assertiveness tips! Am just getting my materials & act together. Will post it soonest. Muah!

18 Jul 2008

God of Wonders- Cliff Young (Tagged...NOT!)

I waited and waited to see if anyone will tag me..but alas no one so i decided to tagged myself! lol..Actually I wasn't hoping to get tagged, as I don't really like to do meme, till I read Oluwadee's gospel like meme and i was inspired to do mine. That was when I started waiting to be tagged o. Don't worry I forgive you all. LOL.

Anyway decided to do the song meme..or whatever you people call it. Am not going to state any rules jo..I'll just do it.

So here goes:

*IF SOMEONE SAYS “IS THIS OKAY” YOU SAY?
King of Kings (He’s a wonder)- Cece Winans
He is a wonder in my life so it is ok!

*WHAT WOULD BEST DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY?
Once in a blue moon- Lighthouse Family
Shu lol…I don’t get this one

*WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL?
One Desire- Hillsong
Yes o having similar desires in life is something I like in a guy

*HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY?
Speechless- Steven Curtis Chapman
This annoying rain that has been pouring non stop is making me speechless

*WHAT IS YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE?
Let’s just praise the Lord- Don Marsh
Hmm… My life’s purpose is to give all the praise, thanks and glory to God. You deserves it all.

*WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO?
This Kingdom- Hillsong
It’s all about God’s kingdom. Seek first HIS kingdom and all other things shall be added unto you.

*WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS THINK OF YOU?
If anything ever happened to you- Bebe & Cece Winans…
Abi? how could my friends go on if anything ever happened to me?? I believe they pray that nothing bad happens to me! Aww

*WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR PARENTS?
Written in the Stars- West life
LOL..ok I dunno how to analyse this one…hmm ok the chorus of the song helps. Looking at my life and how the pieces fall into place it won’t have turned out right without them in it.

*WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT VERY OFTEN?
Sweet Surrender- Jaci Velasquez
AH! I do think a lot about the benefit yet the struggle of always surrendering to God

*WHAT IS 2+2?
All I have to give- Backstreet boys.
LOL…2+ 2 is all I have to give to you!

*WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR BEST FRIEND?
I can’t complain- Dewayne Woods….
Yes o I can’t complain about any best friend i have had at any point in my life. I appreciate them all

*WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Faith Enough- Carman
I have faith that God will see Husby and I through the journey

*WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY?
Running with the Night- Lionel Richie
Nawa o…a beg i’ll rather sleep at night than run

*WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP?
Jesus is the answer- Simply Worship 1
Yes ke, I want to be more like Jesus each and everyday

*WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Shelter in the Rain- 4Him
Hubsy with God’s help is my shelter!!

*WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU?
My God- Point of Grace
“My God what a lovely daughter”…I wish! But I presume that is what they think of me now. Not when I was younger sha cuz I was very troublesome

*WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING?
That somebody was you- Kenny G
This thing dey correct o. Yes baby, it was you all along!

*WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL?
Fill My Cup- Cece Winans
Ah! Shu. Abeg o, Which cup?

*WHAT IS YOUR HOBBY/INTEREST?
Larger than Life- Backstreet boys
LOL..this wan pass me o…is sleeping larger than life??

*WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET?
The Prayer Anthem- Carman
This thing don catch me. Hmm my secret is that I have not been praying as much as I ought to. Forgive me lord

*WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS?
Spiritual Love Trin-i-tee 5:7
I have agape love for all my friends :)

Finally
*WHAT SHOULD YOU POST THIS AS?
God of Wonders- Cliff Young

Nice one!

That was refreshing..hehehe

15 Jul 2008

Ten things Tuesday (02)

Here's my second list of ten things to be thankful for this past week. You can find a link to my first list here
  1. Hubby and I celebrated our six months wedding anniversary on Saturday. It's been a wonderful ride so far!
  2. For protection against all evil
  3. Met up with a blogger friend, tolatino this last week. T'was really nice catching up and we talked some bit on what we have in common, wearing braces! I stopped wearing braces about 2 years ago, she wears them now.
  4. I am getting more confident and comfortable with my driving.
  5. My brother in law and his wife had a bouncing baby boy! I am so elated for them
  6. My new business idea is forming shape- will fill you in when it becomes a reality. Quite excited
  7. A good friend of mine got his American student visa
  8. For the British high commission in Nigeria going on strike or whatever. Was really upset about this cuz a friend was just about to drop her application for her British visa but couldn't cuz of this strike issue but I still thank God because am sure he knows why this is happening now. I pray they call off this thing soonest!!!!
  9. Healing over rashes on my neck and arm. I thought it came as a result of the hay fever drug the doctor prescribed but apparently he says it's another allergy. Whatever! The rashes are clearing up and I am so happy about that!
  10. For the joys of womanhood. Don't think I want to elaborate further but I am thankful that I am a woman.
So what are you thankful for?

6 Jul 2008

You don’t have to catch the ball

There’s a new principle I have learnt lately that I will like to share with you. “When someone throws the ball at you, you don’t have to catch it”. Everyday, people (spouses, colleagues, friends, family etc) throw all kinds of balls at us and most of us think it is our duty to catch them. We see ourselves as heroes and pride in the ability to rescue our family and friends when they are in trouble. However when we do this often we sometimes begin to feel resentful, blaming others for taking advantage of us or for not giving us the respect we think we deserve. It is like a vicious cycle- you want to please everyone yet you are not happy because you feel manipulated.


Why do we find ourselves in situations like this? Maybe because we don’t want to look bad or we want people to like us or we simply have a rescuer mentality. It sometimes boils down to the ability to saying no. Before I continue please note that I am not saying we should never be there for our families and friends, what I am saying is that we choose when to be there. That way, we don’t blame others for taking up all our time since we made that choice to be available in the first place. The funny thing is when we choose not to catch the ball, the person will bounce their ball to someone else who eventually will catch it (shows you are not the only one in the world that can help).


Saying no does not mean you reject the person it simply means you reject the task or whatever it is they want you to get involved in. This is where assertiveness comes in. I read somewhere that assertiveness is “your ability to know who you are and what you stand for - and then to express these qualities effectively in everyday interactions with other people”. Assertiveness is a skill we all have to learn as it does not come to us naturally. People generally lean towards passiveness (trying to keep peace at all times) or aggression (resorting to violence when saying no). Assertion increases constructive communication and relationship between people.


The consequence of being assertive is that people respect your feelings and your boundaries. You know you have a right to express your opinions or beliefs even when it contradicts what others are saying or what they want you to do.


One area where most of us see ourselves catching the ball is picking up our mobile/phone when it rings. It's a strange one but it is true. Mobile phones can be a BIG time stealer. We pick up the phone and sometimes get involved in idle chats and later on realise that we haven't achieved much either at work or with the house chores. Sometimes when I am doing my house chores and my phone rings I let it ring out. My hubby gets upset with me when I do this but I tell him it is my mobile phone and I can choose to answer it or not. Besides I can always call this person back. More often than not if the call is really important the caller either leaves a message on my voicemail or sends me an sms. This is not to say I don't appreciate my friends or I don't want people calling me but I have learnt that I am in control of my time and can't catch the ball at that time. Speaking of which, I need to return some calls I missed this weekend!


Anyway, I hope you get the point I am trying to make. It might not apply to everyone but am sure someone out there needs to read this. Next time I will be talking about some assertiveness tips for everyday life. Meanwhile enjoy your week and remember when someone throws the ball at you, you don't have to catch it.