tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post4507964866161385251..comments2024-03-17T10:03:40.029+00:00Comments on Purpose Driven Blog: Assertiveness Tipsalotedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-18156182924118375482008-09-04T08:48:00.000+01:002008-09-04T08:48:00.000+01:00"Think through your arguments before presenting th..."Think through your arguments before presenting them" how so true though would have loved to rather express my opinion (without thinking it through) as the core point, which is not always so.rethotshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09863776336604295843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-47388627830619333132008-08-18T16:25:00.000+01:002008-08-18T16:25:00.000+01:00Thanks for dragging me here by force :)Hmm, I thin...Thanks for dragging me here by force :)<BR/>Hmm, I think we hang around different people. Most of my married friends actually pay their wives more attention than themselves. That's how its going to be for me too.<BR/>I guess part of that may come from the crappy <I>'Igbo'</I> tendency that our wives are our pride.tobennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16019398627142150694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-33240691646414809602008-08-16T22:17:00.000+01:002008-08-16T22:17:00.000+01:00@buttercup- omo there are courses on anything thes...@buttercup- omo there are courses on anything these days o especially in the office place...they want to teach u how to relate to others...<BR/><BR/>i hope u'll be able to apply some of these tips :)alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-51365019825651470862008-08-16T13:12:00.000+01:002008-08-16T13:12:00.000+01:00i learnt a lot from this cos im not usually an ass...i learnt a lot from this cos im not usually an assertive person....<BR/><BR/>ddnt know there are courses on assertiveness...wonders shall never end!Buttercuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182390815082496865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-41011148001801581592008-08-15T17:36:00.000+01:002008-08-15T17:36:00.000+01:00@FFF- Amen o my sister. amen!@anonymous- glad some...@FFF- Amen o my sister. amen!<BR/><BR/>@anonymous- glad someone could identify with my examples. hope u begin to use the tips!<BR/><BR/>@standtall- you are welcome :)alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-88454906173216947452008-08-14T16:43:00.000+01:002008-08-14T16:43:00.000+01:00correct one jooooooooooooooooooooo. I have learnt ...correct one jooooooooooooooooooooo. I have learnt reading this. Thank you mi-ladyThe Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-86094755519816664892008-08-14T16:36:00.000+01:002008-08-14T16:36:00.000+01:00Nice one. I identify with the tip on ‘letting othe...Nice one. I identify with the tip on ‘letting other people know exactly what you want without making unclear requests’. A good example was the ‘attending the party’ thing. Sometimes, I tell pple I will try to do s.thing, when indeed I know that I can’t fulfil that request. So I will be working on that. ‘On being responsible for other pple’s behaviour’…. You were talking to me for real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-49033793706740137522008-08-14T16:27:00.000+01:002008-08-14T16:27:00.000+01:00plenty pple no know d diff, esp @ work. God go hel...plenty pple no know d diff, esp @ work. God go help us & keep us 4rm murdering some 'sharp mouth' colleagues ehFlourishing Floridahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587385454888882192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-24798486779295417782008-08-14T16:26:00.000+01:002008-08-14T16:26:00.000+01:00@naijalines- abi ke?! my point exactly :)@naijalines- abi ke?! my point exactly :)alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-26857910398120048352008-08-14T13:54:00.000+01:002008-08-14T13:54:00.000+01:00Communication is important as well as assertivenes...Communication is important as well as assertiveness. It all lies in the interpretation and the body language.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467664797856391600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-5532636816785826532008-08-14T11:51:00.000+01:002008-08-14T11:51:00.000+01:00@jaycee- thanks girl...@FG- i can imagine about yo...@jaycee- thanks girl...<BR/><BR/>@FG- i can imagine about your friend but she made her choice. so are u going to use these assertiveness tips with your neighbour ;)<BR/><BR/>The Mr and I are good...thanks for asking. Regards to your hubby.alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-14636818259755599102008-08-13T21:12:00.000+01:002008-08-13T21:12:00.000+01:00Great tips babe, I'll definitely be putting some o...Great tips babe, I'll definitely be putting some of them into action. I especially like the first one cos I have been dealing with a friend who refused to take my advice some time ago and is now heartbroken. I felt bad but now I realise it was her choice.<BR/><BR/>Hope you and Mr are doing great :)Favoured Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06799796628809329966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-78607339230426619262008-08-13T01:17:00.000+01:002008-08-13T01:17:00.000+01:00The one I liked best was "Think through your argum...The one I liked best was "Think through your arguments before presenting them."<BR/><BR/>I'm sure that will always make a lot of difference.<BR/><BR/>I really love these assertiveness tips...thanks.Jennifer A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618639466963813761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-44348470766279633942008-08-12T16:02:00.000+01:002008-08-12T16:02:00.000+01:00@writefreak- yes assertiveness is something we all...@writefreak- yes assertiveness is something we all learn. will keep u posted..pray my boss approves the training<BR/><BR/>@parakeet- lol..i like that "your nija voice"...nonsense voice abi...correct...but u know we naija people can be more on the agressive side...<BR/><BR/>sleek n' catty- abi o..its something we have to put into practice. will go check ur blog in a bit<BR/><BR/>@uzezi- my gambian friend :) yes o..if only we remember people are different from us, life will be a more peaceful place.alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-13338576082531351972008-08-12T14:29:00.000+01:002008-08-12T14:29:00.000+01:00nice points to note. it would make life better if ...nice points to note. it would make life better if people can just understand lal of these and more. we are different and dont have to think alike or like same things, or dislike people for who they areZayzeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11907709431101967094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-88419753751651912872008-08-12T02:31:00.000+01:002008-08-12T02:31:00.000+01:00Lol.. I remember learning all these a few yrs back...Lol.. I remember learning all these a few yrs back and I still don't know how to use it!!<BR/>Sometimes it soo difficult to express what you want when people's mind are set on being biased though.<BR/>Great post..looking forward to your thots after your course.<BR/>P.S I finally updated..sleekiesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06389806681377736257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-40684543426607557482008-08-11T21:46:00.000+01:002008-08-11T21:46:00.000+01:00Hmm...very insightful. See at work they let me tak...Hmm...very insightful. See at work they let me take care of all the difficult clients cos they say I make them listen and act but what I do is put on my nija voice. All this oyinbo pampering I cant handle. They dont like my tone, but they're happy as long as I get the job done. I guess I can put your points to good use.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping at mine.Parakeethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14034748785098588120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-60340206166164383642008-08-11T19:52:00.000+01:002008-08-11T19:52:00.000+01:00Nice points babes, hmm, some of us need the course...Nice points babes, hmm, some of us need the course o...let's know if you ge definitely!Writefreakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03457464940195376970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-50914079297843729832008-08-11T19:49:00.000+01:002008-08-11T19:49:00.000+01:00Nice points babes, hmm, some of us need the course...Nice points babes, hmm, some of us need the course o...let's know if you ge definitely!Writefreakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03457464940195376970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-11625338452779119982008-08-11T16:35:00.000+01:002008-08-11T16:35:00.000+01:00@LG- biz is moving slowly o but we thank God...tha...@LG- biz is moving slowly o but we thank God...thanks for checking up :)<BR/><BR/>@Rita- thanks...yes it is definitely in how we say it...people read about our tone and body language than wat we actually say<BR/><BR/>@oluwaDee- am glad people like you are getting a hang of what i am talking about. I gbadun this your example :D<BR/>how wedding preps? It's nearly here o...yippeeee!alotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-2557768271365376432008-08-11T16:01:00.000+01:002008-08-11T16:01:00.000+01:00This tips r so useful. The "I" instead of "you" is...This tips r so useful. <BR/>The "I" instead of "you" is soo true. <BR/><BR/>Eg: You don't spend enough time with me, u always come home late @ night<BR/><BR/>instead say<BR/><BR/>I feel lonely when you are not home early. Can u pls try coming home early.O'Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678018050951152616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-87944127323317828642008-08-11T15:14:00.000+01:002008-08-11T15:14:00.000+01:00Great points Aloted. They are indeed applicable. O...Great points Aloted. They are indeed applicable. One thing I have learnt in addition to these is "It's not what you say but how you say it". Speaking constructively (or diplomatically as the case may be) really helps in driving home the point without offending people.<BR/><BR/>Na wa oh! This your post is powerful. I like it.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13202972020876371306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-86109026335188041292008-08-11T11:03:00.000+01:002008-08-11T11:03:00.000+01:00lol@mz.dee, but babes na true u talk, even 'boo' t...lol@mz.dee, but babes na true u talk, even 'boo' tells me to hold my opinion until lata (much lata) who sai!! me i talk it as i see/feel it. *grins*<BR/><BR/>iyawo howz biz????LGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922097191529698792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-1527857450521851152008-08-10T00:39:00.000+01:002008-08-10T00:39:00.000+01:00@afrobabe- i totally agree...knowing the differenc...@afrobabe- i totally agree...knowing the difference between assertiveness and rudeness is crucial<BR/><BR/>@mzdee- i feel u..i guess as long as we communicate clearly in a courteous manner it shld not be considered as disrespectful. then again some people don't like hearing "NO" and will call u names for speaking upalotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28779226.post-73749796671352554282008-08-09T23:43:00.000+01:002008-08-09T23:43:00.000+01:00U def made a lot of sense. I personally like the o...U def made a lot of sense. I personally like the one bout speaki out wen u hv strong feelingz about an issue. I tell people this all the time and i hear excuses likes its direspectful n all that.. i shud give them ur post to read!Mz. Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04360549948857697028noreply@blogger.com